I’ve got nothing against detransitioners as a whole, but it irks the absolute fuck out of me when some detransitioners discover activism and talk about the evils of transitioning and say that it’s wholly ineffective.
Shut the fuck up. I get it, transitioning didn’t work for you. That doesn’t mean that it doesn’t work for everyone ever. What’s the detransition rate—something between less than a percent and five percent? More often than not, transitioning is effective in relieving dysphoria and thus in helping someone live a full life. Quit assuming that your experience is the representative one, and for the love of all that is holy, stop telling people that transitioning doesn’t work.
You shut the fuck up, that’s not the extent of what we’re saying when we say transition doesn’t work. It’s self destructive and the fact that it’s presented as the only solution is bullshit. You might as well be saying “Drinking a lot is effective in relieving depression and helps some people live a full life so all of you sober people need to shut up about alcoholism”.
Trans is a state of mind, it’s a psychogenic condition similar to PTSD and dissociation; it’s not a physiological one. There is no male or female brain, there is no brain sex, none of that actually exists. Which means why would you treat something physically that has no physical cause? Please explain how the hell that’s suppose to work.
Self-destructive? No, I don’t think so. How is it self-destructive to transition to male instead of drinking myself to death because I can’t handle being female? Transition is nothing like drinking. Drinking, as I am sure you are aware, doesn’t actually improve someone’s quality of life.
Where did I imply male or female brains existed? What about this post says I know the cause? I don’t. I just know that there are people who cannot handle living out their lives as their birth sex, and whose suffering can be alleviated by transitioning.
If it’s a psychogenic condition, how do you suppose you fix it? Pray it away? Shock therapy? If you’re such an expert on these matters, what do I do instead of pursuing HRT and SRS? I’d sure like to save some time and money.
Are you going to deny the fact that there are many people who felt alien to their bodies, transitioned, and now feel at home in their bodies and live fuller lives?
I signed away on all the side effects but once it actually started happening, I freaked out and stopped (Then started again but that’s another story). Of course I’m sure this would mean I “chickened out” or “couldn’t handle it” but I don’t think not being able to deal with taking something that’s ruins your health is a bad thing.
The reason I brought up the brains is because that is what’s used as to why someone has to transition. That there is a brain in the “wrong body” and therefore correcting “the defect” is just like getting chemo for cancer or taking medication for high blood pressure. Except that doesn’t exist, there IS no physical cause for it. You can’t scan someone and be like “Ah, here is where the mismatch is.”
The fact that there are perfectly healthy bodies that people feel extreme depression (dysphoria) about means that, by default, the cause is psychogenic.
Of course when you try to find where this depression is coming from, it just so happens that we live in a society that hates the fuck out of female people and encourages gender conformity to the point that someone can be unknowingly socialized as trans. (Were you ever told anything like how you’d make the perfect guy if only you weren’t female or how you don’t really come across as a girl?)
When put in this situation, yeah someone’s mental state can improve and they can live fuller lives when they aren’t being constantly harassed. But it’s a quick fix “treating the symptom” rather than going down to the root and trying to find a cure as to why dysphoria happens and getting rid of that cause.
(And it’s funny that you’d bring up reparative therapy when SRS actually is and has historically been reparative therapy for gay and gender non-conforming people.)
It’s just that if there was a way where it wasn’t intolerable to be seen as female, that you wouldn’t have to jump through all the hoops and bind and pack and save up money and take hormones that you’d have to be on for the rest of your life and then get treatment for the effects of the hormones, wouldn’t you rather take it?
For what it’s worth, this is coming from someone who is seriously considering transition again so this isn’t an attack or me talking about things I don’t understand. It also means that I don’t quite know what the solution is yet but I know that this isn’t it.
Some of my (gender) dysphoria has eased up a bit by surrounding myself with and being in contact with female people who might be read as trans as well as listening to the stories of others who have gone through this and how similar our stories were. I plan on moving to an area where gender non-conformity doesn’t get you stared at and more of the population is gay. So changing your surroundings and who you interact with might be a start.